The Person most likely to Attack You!

Mass shootings, car bombings, riots, and genocide are words that we hear all to often in today’s world. 

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We are faced with some pretty harsh realities every time we turn on TV, the radio, online…..pretty much anywhere we get our news these days.

It is easy to get caught up, to begin to worry about who is sitting behind you in the theater. About that noise you thought you heard. About that stranger walking too close to you in the parking lot……but……

The reality is right now, statistically speaking, is the safest time to live in all of recorded history. For the most part we come and go through our daily lives in relative safety, without the threat of injury, dismemberment, or death from our fellow man.

The sad reality is that we are more likely to get attacked by ourselves than anyone else.

Our heart is more likely to harm us than anyone else. The killer hiding downstairs is the refrigerator! Filled with type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure….and some Tupperware with some  new strain of fungus growing steadily.

quickreliefWe are more likely to be harmed by our device, induced insomnia. By our inability to sleep and decompress without some show, movie, or podcast blurring in our headphones than anyone hiding under our bed.

We are more likely to sabotage ourselves with self doubt, with apathy, and just plain laziness then have someone tamper with our brake lines.

The good news however is that we are our best defense against……..ourselves. Here are a few tips of keeping you safe from YOU!

  1. Turn the devices off! Take time to be connected to people not the internet. To be surrounded with silence every once and a while. IMG_0994To get lost in nature more, and online less. The truth is we are designed to be a part of the world around us, to engage with people, places, and things, and without the aid of a screen.
  2. Trash In, Trash Out! You literally are what you eat. Pick foods that make your body feel good, even if the don’t make your mouth feel good. Buy foods with an ingredient list as small as possible, and made from ingredients that you can pronounce without a chemistry degree. Eat to enjoy the next ten years of your life, and not the next ten minutes.
  3. Invest in Yourself Everyday! Your success, your joy, your health is not a result of major change over short periods of time. It is made from small, incremental changes that we stick with over time. That crash diet…..is going to crash in a few weeks, but the decision to eliminate carbonated drinks will pay dividends for your entire life.

These are just a few, but they are more than enough to get you started. Good luck, and GET UP, GET OUT, and GET MOVING!

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-Joshua Page,

www.hickorymartialarts.com

 

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Dedication….from Moment to Moment

Just in case you were thinking about slacking, laying low, skipping out on your goals this week.

Remember this, “winning” and succeeding is not a one time thing, it is not a big event, not one pivotal moment. It is an every day thing, it is a habit, it is in the decisions and actions we make from moment to moment.

Champions are “winning” one second at a time, through continued effort, continuous discipline, through continuing to strive past our own limitations, or own negative self talk, past our doubt, and fears, and the judgments of others.

DEDICATION is not a personality trait, it IS A VERB….something that is breathed into life by being put into ACTION……

-Joshua Page,

http://www.hickorymartialarts.com

1,000 Reasons to Quit

There are 1,000 reasons to quit on your goal, at least 1,000. Some of which are even valid, that make sense, are rational, pragmatic reasons. Some of them pull at your heartstrings, make you emotional, pull on you so very hard.

There are 1,000 people who agree with you quitting, at least 1,000. Some of whom you look up to, want to be like, who’s opinion you hold in high esteem.

There are 1,000 other things pulling you away, at least 1,000. Many of which are noble, and worth-wild pursuits.

There are 1,000 reasons at least for you to quit, “too busy, too old, too hurt, too slow, too expensive, too much of seemingly everything……and there always will be.

What’s your one reason to stay? The one person you can’t let down? That one thing that is your passion, your gift, your fire, that thing that won’t get out of the back of your head?

What’s your one?

Find your one, find the one, the one reason to drag you kicking and screaming through hell and back, through the thousands and thousands of excuses, and imaginary walls, and ceiling we surround ourselves everyday. Through anything and everything that the world throws in your way, and you might just live a few moments of this precious life.

What’s your ONE?

-Joshua Page,

http://www.hickorymartialarts.com

Enthusiasm…

“One of the main reasons that we lose our enthusiasm in life is because we become ungrateful..we let what was once a miracle become common to us. We get so accustomed to his goodness it becomes a routine..”
― Joel Osteen

Enthusiasm is the expression of your passion. It is the outward sign of an inward Faith. It is the beginning…of the beginning.

Passion is the fuel for all our good intentions, and the best thing about passion and enthusiasm is the more you use them, them more you get. They are a the very definition of synergy if you just “turn the faucet on”.

Goals and Values Part 2

Goals, resolutions, aspirations, desires, passions, are all great but you will never reach them, or be satisfied with them unless they are driven by your values.

Your values, your ideals, your morals, your faith are the foundation for your success. They are the magic ingredient for reaching your goals.

You may have heard of the term “goal driven life, or goal oriented achiever”, for true success we need to make a slight change and adopt a value driven life, or become a value oriented achiever.

I think you will find that results are much better, and your smile will be contagious!

-Joshua Page, http://www.hickorymartialarts.com

10 Distinctions for Success in 2013

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2013 is here, and we wanted to share a few distinctions between success and failure to help make this your best year yet!

1) Success is being grateful for what you have, failure is looking past your blessings for the things you don’t need.

2) Success is helping others….just to help others, failure is helping yourself….without helping anyone but yourself.

3) Success is making a difference in just one person, failure is trying to change just one person.

4) Success is listening to your own voice, failure is letting others speak for you.

5) Success is learning new skills, failure is relying on last years gains.

6) Success is “paying it forward” with all your relationships, failure is “cashing out” the people you love.

7) Success is understanding the value of your time, failure is wasting it on the things that don’t matter.

8) Success is living in the face of your fears, failure is living in their shadow.

9) Success is in winning….and losing, failure is in avoiding one or the other.

10) Success is passed on, failure…..is too. Choose your example carefully!

Happy New…….You!,

Joshua Page, www.hickorymartialarts.com

Falling Leaves…

While I was driving this morning, I could not help but notice the leaves starting to fall off the trees. Seeing the leaves floating away in the cool breeze brings a certain feeling of comfort. It is almost as if the trees are taking a big sigh of relief, as a huge burden gently falls away.

Nature is so perfect at removing all those things that are unnecessary to the trees, that overabundance of leaves that would otherwise weigh the trees down over the cold days that lay ahead. Of striping them down to the bare essentials to let them continue to grow strong roots during the winter, and be in a position to spring back to life in full bloom as the cold days give way to the warm sunshine yet again.

Do you have an overabundance of leaves, as you head into this next season of your life? Are you burdened by the weight of all of your possessions, both old and new. In our ever expanding pursuit of things does the collection of more “leaves” make you happier, healthier, wealthier? Do they help you capture the best from your life?

Lift up your branches and let all that is excess, all that weighs you down, all that takes away your focus from what is vital, float away in that gentle breeze.

Take away the abundance of your possessions, to experience the joy of truly abundant living. 

Challenge yourself to spending the entire winter without buying anything new, except for the absolute essentials. Experience the joy of getting the full value out of everything you own, out of cultivating appreciation for the things that you have and need, not for what you want.

-Joshua Page

Your Last 1,000 Words

I have to admit it, I am an Eddie Murphy fan. The way he speaks, his wit, and comedy always make me laugh. Recently however I was surprised when I was watching one of his latest movies. His character in this particular film had a peculiar problem, he only had 1,000 words left before he died!

Can you imagine if that was a reality in your life? If with each word you said you got closer and closer to the end of your existence. What would you say…would you say anything at all!

Sometimes we underestimate the power of our words, and the very impact they have on our health, on the lives of others, and for the future generations we are molding and shaping with the very sounds that are escaping our lips each day.

People are constantly talking, communicating in person, on the phone, online. We literally fill our skies with our conversations, we broadcast them all over the planet, and beyond.

What is the conversation you are cultivating? What are the things you are talking about? What is the impact the words you are speaking today? 

If you took your last 1,000 words and wrote them down what story would it tell? Are there more I love you’s then I hate you’s? Is there motivation, or desperation in those words. What are the last 1,000 words you said to the people you love. What were the last 1,000 words you spoke to yourself?

Each and every day is not just another chapter in your life, you are also speaking into the lives of others that you know and love, and even those people that would see you fall, even people you will never meet face to face.

What is the conversation, the book, the dialog you want to have with this world, and more importantly are you having it?

We cannot control our last thousand words. As much as we wish we could, We cannot go back and edit them. We can however control the next 1,000. We can make sure this next chapter leaves something worth hearing in it, and if we can continue that process again and again then just maybe our last 1,000 words, our last 10,000, our 100,000 words will be the conversation we wanted to have. Will make the impact we want to make. We will become the change we so desperately wish we could be.

I look forward to my next thousand chances to really express myself, to make a statement worth hearing, and more than that I cannot wait to hear yours!

Peace, and Blessings

Joshua Page

“Flow with the Go”

I know, I know, it should be “go with the flow”, however Jiu-Jitsu and mixed martial arts legend Rickson Gracie said it that way in an interview once and it has been stuck in my head that way ever since.

This phrase came alive to me while I was trying, mostly in vain, to paddle myself and my three boys around a lake in a small canoe this weekend. My oldest in the front trying to help paddle (in the wrong direction), his one minute younger twin brother rocking the boat side to side, and the youngest between my legs trying to stand and put his hand in the water.

The canoeing trip I had planned in my mind was just not playing out the  way I had hoped it would, to say the least. It wasn’t until I let go of my plans and decided that it wasn’t about making it to all of the great spots at the lake, it was not about having the perfect outing, but it was about  taking advantage of the time we had together. To just relax, and go where the lake decided to take us. To stop wasting all my energy and focus paddling us to that perfect spot, and making the most of the spot we were already at.

So many times we get caught up in the pursiut of perfection, the perfect vacation, perfect house, car, spouse, kids…the list goes on. Life however is not about perfection, it is about loving it’s imperfection, it’s quirks, it’s uniqueness.

Our boat, our family, our lives my not be the same as yours. We might seem to be going in circles, while tiny voices boom out silly songs, and sway precariously back and forth, but as long as it is filled with the people we love the destination will always be the same……Happiness.

Where are you furiously paddling too this week? Have you already arrived at your destination but you just haven’t realized it yet? I hope you are able to take a moment to just “flow with the go”, enjoy the crazy ride we are all on, and let the destination take care of itself.

By the way the oldest can now paddle, his twin can lean and help steer the boat, and the youngest knows that Lake water is way to cold to explore for too long!

-Joshua Page

www.hickorymartialarts.com

 

Empty Presents

The absolute joy of opening a present…Is there any comparison? “I wonder what it is…..It feels heavy!….please be a….it’s just what I always wanted!” That feeling of anticipation, the elation we get as we tear into that gift is such a thrill that cannot be duplicated….until we see another present.

The hip new sweater, turns into “so last season” far too quickly. That new Ipad turns into last generation technology before we can even really learn how to use the old one. The brand new sports car turns into last years model, even as it is rolling off the lot.

No matter what the material gift is, how much it fills the box it is in, it is ultimately an “empty present”. It does not serve to satisfy us long enough for the next thing we decide to acquire, or add to our wish list.

Not to say that object, presents cannot hold a lasting value, or meaning. As I write this I cannot help but notice the watch my wife gave to me for our 10 year anniversary sitting beside me. It is one of my most valued possessions, but the value is not associated with the cost of the watch (which my wife will never let me forget!) or even the watch itself. The value is on the memory that it helps me to keep, of the weekend we spent celebrating 10 years together with a much needed getaway to the mountains.

It also serves to remind me that our most valued presents are not cars, or clothes, or jewelry. They are the moments we share, the memories we create, and the love we cultivate person to person, minute to minute, hour by hour, day by day. Our most valuable present is time itself, and each day we wake we should tear into that time like it was the biggest, shiniest present that you have ever laid eyes on!

I hope you are able to unwrap far many more days, than you are “empty presents”, and you fill the present of time with your full and loving presence.

-Joshua Page

http://www.hickorymartialarts.com

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